Parents have many roles in the family; they are the ones to support and guide their children: spiritually, emotionally, and mentally – financially, of course, that’s given – but aren’t they forgetting something? They, once in a while, fail to recall that in order their children befriends with others, they need to be first in the line; that before their children believe in themselves, their parents must bestow their full trust in them. There are times, though, that it’s not the case, which is somehow understandable, I guess, since parents are naturally “protective”. Thus, some put an “over-” to the word and complicate it. Instead of being motivations to their children’s way to success, they somewhat became the stumbling block on the road. Instead of “this”, it became “that”. Instead of positive, it became negative. Instead of precise, it became uncertain. Too much protection and prohibited actions will always result to misleading interpretation. And if in case, you doubt what I said, try considering this quote by Kaleel Jamison from the book The Nibble Theory and the Kernel of Power: A Book about Leadership, Self Empowerment, and Personal Growth, "Relationships - of all kinds - are like sand held in your hand. Held loosely, with an open hand, the sand remains where it is. The minute you close your hand and squeeze tightly to hold on, the sand trickles through your fingers. You may hold onto it, but most will be spilled. A relationship is like that. Held loosely, with respect and freedom for the other person, it is likely to remain intact. But hold too tightly, too possessively, and the relationship slips away and is lost." Hopefully, it get us all to thinking.
Misunderstanding; it is common among people nowadays – within a circle of friends – but most likely to end easily within a family. On the other hand, it’s not, because it is probably, in a parents and children quarrel, for parents to uproar to their children to the point that they say almost everything that may possibly come into their mind; bad or worse. And then there goes the impossible, where the children just stand in front of their parents and listening to their scolding. Let as get back to the reality, though. Parents may think that it is easy for us, children, to answer them back. It’s not. However, we still do. Disrespectfully some time, yes. But not intentionally. It hurts for us to see how our parents felt after the fight. It rips our hearts apart whenever we see them cry. But to where, when and how will we stand? If in some way they are listening but they are not fully understanding. How will they know our side toward the misunderstanding if we do not speak? If we do not express our feelings? Why not consider that at some point we are right? I have justifications. A lot, really. Yet, I’m managing myself to be polite in any ways that I can, to have more understandings about these chaotic things in life. Because no matter what argument we make with them, we will constantly lose, because in the end, their still “the parents”.
I think most families lack communications. I mean, they are talking but they’re not really conversing. If you get what I mean. But as they say, parents are parents and children are children, too. That, I comprehend. Aren’t they taking into consideration that parents are children once and children are future parents, too? I am not saying that your parents – hers, his, or even mine – are not doing the right parenting, because I, also, believe that there are no wrongs and rights on parenting a child or more. Some, we may say, are just overwhelmed of having kids that they do everything for their children’s best, even over-protecting them. I’m just saying that if I, in the future, become a parent of myself today, I would consider my child’s side – every part of it. Still having both parents’ presence maybe great but to also become their best friend, well, that’s beyond perfect.